NOTE: This is part 2 of the series. Read Part 1 here.
Where you begin your journey has a significant impact on where you end. And so, ladies, there is a question you should ponder before diving head first into a commitment.
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Have you ever stopped to think about it? How do I know if he is the right guy?
The type you would actually desire to spend your life with. A man you could be proud of. You know, someone you could introduce as “your man” without feeling the slightest bit embarrassed.
I have good news for you.
There is a way to discern quickly if a guy is worth your time. Simply ask yourself this question. It will give you a framework in which to see things with the right perspective.
Q: 20 years from now, is this the man, you will want to be married to?
Not whom you think he could be. Who he is RIGHT NOW.
Years down the road he will not be different. He will essentially be the same guy you married. The most common mistake women make is thinking, “I can change him.” But trust me, it doesn’t work that way (read Women’s Marriage Mistake for more. It’s awesome).
What happens too often is that a girl dates out of fear. Chiefly, the fear of being alone.
She shudders at the thought of becoming an old maid. So in her mind it is better to settle than risk it. Though he is not what she wants, she justifies the decision with the thought, “I’ll just turn him into the man I want.” Meaning, she doesn’t really want him. She just doesn’t want to be alone.
In the end, this will only leave her disappointed and the man confused.
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Men don’t change much. And actually, it works in your favor.
Never will you have to wonder if he will change. With men, what you see is what you get. Meaning your future stands before you.
Who he is now is the type of husband he will be later.
Who he is now is the type of father your children will grow up with.
So, is this man—who he is right now—the one you want to be married to 20 years from now?
Answer honestly. Your future depends on it.