Most dating relationships have a major problem. And it’s simple to fix. It can all be solved by asking this one question: Where are you going?
Problems arise when there is no destination in mind. The approach that “we’ll just see what happens” is a misguided one. Imagine if you ran the rest of your life completely on your feelings? What if you only went to work when you felt like it? You’d get fired. We know this.
We must have destinations, for destinations create purpose. And a life without purpose is not a life at all; it’s just existence.
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The greatest dating relationships all have the same goal in mind: marriage. They are not looking for just a “good time,” but a life-long partner.
Why is this important? Because only then can you properly pace yourself. You won’t get caught up in the unavoidable emotions and ruin your life. For you have the end in sight; you know where you’re going. To do otherwise is to hand the steering wheel of your relationship over to your feelings. You’re not going to like the results.
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Emotion is a powerful force. You need it to do anything magnificent. But remember this:
Emotion without Vision creates Destruction
Emotion is like a chainsaw. It can cut down Christmas trees, cut wood for a house, carve glorious figures out of ice, or save you in a zombie apocalypse. It’s a remarkable machine. But without direction and purpose it can cut off your limbs.
The real magic is in bringing the two together. When emotion teams up with a clear direction, there is nothing that can stop you.