Every man wants to be loved. Of course we do. And ladies, knowing this, you put a lot of effort into showing love. But what if. . .what if. . .
The way you try and love him only makes him feel . . . unloved?
You see, as it turns out, a man’s deepest desire is not the same as a woman’s. The question roaming in our hearts and minds, informing and forming every decision, is different from what a woman cradles within her.
And this is where we meet the rub.
A woman knows what she wants. She knows what she longs to hear. So she understandably believes that he wants to hear the same thing.
But he doesn’t. He needs to hear something else; a thing you would never guessed he longed for.
The question that invades the heart and head of every man is this:
Am I able? Am I adequate? Not on the inside, but on the outside?
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A woman wants to be worthy of love on the inside. She wants you to look past our outer appearances and accomplishments and love who she is within. But, strange as it seems, that is not what makes a man feel valuable.
This is the desire of every man: to be worthy of love on the outside.
The path to a man’s heart starts on the outside. He needs to know that what he does makes a difference. He yearns to know you admire his accomplishments. Appreciate what he does on the outside and you will have made him feel loved on the inside.
Thus, wives and girlfriends, there is something you need to learn to say. And it probably is not what you think.
The most important words for a man to hear from his wife are not
“I love you”
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If you want to know how to understand your man and create a passionate marriage…
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You might also be interested in my blog “The Desire of a Woman & Men’s Mistake“. Click title to read!