I started thinking about ducks a couple weeks ago. As I walked out of the 24 hour fitness at 8:50am, with my hair still wet from the shower, and my legs burning, two ducks crossed my path. The little guy and girl wobbled without a care in the world, seemingly struck by spring’s unstoppable force: twiterpation. As my eyes gazed upon this surprising event I couldn’t help but noticed the dazzling colors of the male duck. I remembered how this always intrigued me as a kid. Isn’t it the girl who is supposed to be the beautiful one?
The thought quickly subsided as the days “To do’s” came rushing back to my head and I quickly walked to my car.
Just the other day the thought returned to me. A good friend of mine and I were on a walk catching up when, for some odd reason, the topic of peacocks came up. Did you know that, just like ducks, the male peacocks are the beautiful ones? I had never really stopped to think about, but at the moment it hit me.
Why in the world would the male ducks and peacocks be painted with so many majestic colors while the ladies are just brown? The reason is simple. The females are picky…and these fellas know it. All their brilliant shades of colors are for one purpose only: to attract the females. In this bird world the men have to work hard if they want any lady duck or peacock to mate with them.
What would happen if we men took this same approach? What if we had to fight for our women? What if the ladies in our life were picky? What if we put ourselves out on the line, giving everything we got? This is how it works in nature, and maybe it’s supposed work the same way with us.
Here is the honest truth. You want an amazing woman? Then you have to pursue her. You’ve got to grab your laziness by the neck and throw it out of your life. Become a man that is honorable, kind, and is willing to serve. The reason so many unhealthy, unsatisfying relationships exist is, in part, because we have not followed this path. A man that never has to pursue will always feel unsatisfied and insecure; and his woman will feel the same.
Yes I know it is scary. What if I’m not man enough to get that stellar girl? I know just how you feel. I have to get up every morning and fight that same fear. Take courage though. If a duck and peacock can do it, so can we.
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your awesome
I like this. I pray that one day God will place a man in my life that will work hard to “capture” my heart. I do not want to be the one always trying to impress my man lol!
Just trust and I promise it will happen =)
This is what I’m praying for! Thanks for yet another inspiring blog Gordon
keep trusting. A friend once told me that the most vulnerable thing that a woman can do is to let a guy pursue her
That is exactly right. It’s a scary feeling, not knowing if the guy will actually pursue her or just give up when he realizes she won’t be an easy snag, or wondering how long she should let/make him pursue before saying yes, or not knowing whether or not she’s reading his intentions right…
But in the end, it is so worth it.
Your totally right Sami. The thing to remember is, if he gives up when he realizes that you won’t be easy, then he is not the guy you want anyways. You may feel like he is, but his actions prove that down the road you will be disappointed. Waiting for a guy to pursue you is a great strainer that filters out all of the bad guys and only lets the great ones through.
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