Marriage

I don’t do so well with other languages. When the only words you know after taking two years of “Spanish class” are located on the Taco Bell menu. . .you realize that you should probably just stick to English.

Does it ever feel like your significant other is speaking in a foreign tongue? Well, feel better my friend. Because most likely that’s exactly what’s happening.

Imagine with me that two people are having an argument. They are trying to get their points across, but they have a major problem. One is speaking English—the other Spanish.

Cleary this is an issue. So what is the solution? Simply, they must learn to communicate in the other person’s language.

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According the legend known as Dr. Gary Chapman, every human has his or her own Love Language. A person’s Love Language is basically their emotional communication preference—the way in which they best experience and express love.

Throughout the years Dr. Chapman discovered five overarching Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation: Using encouraging, kind and humble words that uplift your spouse.

Gifts: Conveying visible signs of love through tokens of appreciation.

Acts of Service: Doing something for your partner that you know they’d like you to do.

Physical Touch: Expressing affection through hugs, embraces, light pats or love making.

Quality Time: Giving your undivided attention to a loved one.

(Discover your Love Language by clicking HERE!)

FOR EXAMPLE:

Let’s say that a husband’s primary Love Language is Words of Affirmation while his wife’s is Acts of Service.

Wanting to show that he cares the husband frequently expresses his love through notes, text messages, or kind words. Meanwhile she works hard to convey her love by doing his laundry, making dinner, and cleaning the house.

And so, while both are making an effort to communicate their love, neither of them feels loved by the other.

He wants her words of appreciation. She wants his help with the dishes.

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The truth is most couples do care for each other. They just speak different “languages.”

When you take time to discover your partner’s love language it will revolutionize your relationship. For you will have learned how to express the love you feel in a way your spouse understands best.

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